Why Self-Control Might Be Overrated

Self control can be difficult, depending on your situation. It can be very easy for some, and nearly impossible for others. Self-control, for some people, isn’t something that you can just obtain easily and out of nowhere – you have to teach yourself self restraint. You can’t indulge in the things that have been causing your problems – especially if you’re trying to keep a New Year’s resolution.

New Year Resolutions

People make all kinds of resolutions for the new year. Whether it’s to kick a bad habit, to lose weight, or a whole variety of other things, it can be hard to deal with – especially with all of that post-holiday stress. Self control definitely isn’t overrated. Some people may deem it as such because they’re finding it really hard to achieve their goals, but if you get over that initial strain of trying to have self control, then it’ll only get easier from there.

If you’re trying to kick a bad habit, whether it’s as small as biting your nails, or as big as drinking or drugs, then you are going to need to kick the self control into overdrive. These issues don’t take the same amount of self control, obviously, but simply trying to get yourself to not do something cold turkey can be quite challenging. You will need all kinds of support from your friends and family.

What You Can Do To Obtain More Self-Control

Make sure you’re in an environment that supports your decision, too. For example, if you are quitting drinking, make sure you’re not going to a bar with friends. Go to meetings for people who are trying to quit, and spend more time with your family, provided they know what you’re going through, and support it wholeheartedly. If you’re trying to lose weight, don’t hang around friends all of the time that eat a ton of junk food. This will really help with self control.

Read a lot of self help books, even for problems that you aren’t trying to solve. They will often give a lot of pointers on how to maintain self control in times of crisis. Also, the reading will prevent you from trying to do what was harming you in the first place by distracting you! It’s a great idea. You can buy self help books at bookstores, or check them out at libraries.

On that note, you should find a lot of distractions. Anything from spending more time with your kids, to doing housework, to going to school… find a new hobby. This will instill a sense of self control in you – you’re doing something productive instead of breaking your resolutions.

Self control isn’t overrated – it’s just difficult, so people don’t like it. People give up on things too easily. If you have a lot of distractions and positive forces in your life, you can break your bad habits and keep your resolutions very easily. Then, at the end of this year, you won’t even think about trying to stop a habit – it’ll come naturally!

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Derek is an active self-help blogger. When he is not blogging, he enjoys teaching a night class for adults about learning to relax. The article above is for getting to know yourself.