When planning an anniversary that commemorates a milestone year, such as 10, 25, or 50 years together, it’s always touching to have a tangible reminder of the celebration. But the almost as important as selecting what the gift will be is planning how you will deliver it.
Stay on Track with Reminders
One of the things you can use to help keep you on track before the big day is a reminder service. I’m not talking about spending a fortune on hiring a service to remind you of things. You can download apps on your iPad or iPhone, or your Android tablet or smartphone.
The apps alert you in the form of alarms, text messages, or emails all sent right through your phone. You can remember ideas of things you might like to give as an anniversary gift. The app will also remind you of important dates, such as “jewelry ready for pickup” or “drop tux off at the cleaners”.
Clear All Schedules
Your wedding anniversary only takes place one time per calendar year, and milestone celebrations are even more infrequent. Even if your spouse has to work for part of the day, they will be touched that you cleared your calendar so the whole day could be dedicated to their needs. (And in case you are wondering, yes they will be even more touched if you do not guilt trip them for having to work part of the day.)
The only things on your schedule should be things that directly pertain to your anniversary. For example, dinner reservations, show times for events that you have pre-purchased tickets to attend and, if you plan to go out of town, airline times and hotel reservations as well.
Including Family and Friends
Even if it does not take place on the date of your anniversary, it’s inevitable that family and friends might inquire about throwing some kind of party to celebrate the event. Here are some ideas for theme parties based on both the traditional and contemporary gift associated with each of the big milestones.
- 1ST Anniversary – The traditional gift for the first anniversary is paper. There are actually some fairly creative ways to give paper gifts. Personalized whiskey labels over a bottle of the couple’s favorite liquor, personalized stationery or journals, and messages from guests stuffed in an empty, clean plastic bottle are some good examples. Decorate with garland made with mini-paper airplanes or other origami pieces.
- 5TH Anniversary – The traditional gift for the fifth anniversary is wood. Wooden furniture or art pieces, jewelry, landscaping elements, a clock, keepsake boxes, a wine rack, or any number of upcycled gifts could fall into this category.
- 10TH Anniversary – The traditional gift for the tenth anniversary is tin or aluminum. Gifts in this category include wind chimes, cufflinks or other bits of jewelry for either spouse – or both of them, wall plaques with the street address of the home, lawn ornaments, or my favorite – an antique tin popcorn popper.
- 20TH Anniversary – The traditional gift for the twentieth anniversary is china, as in dishes. Why not give the theme a twist and serve Chinese food? Decorate with tapestries made with rich colored silks. And don’t forget to hand out personalized fortune cookies!
- 25TH Anniversary – The traditional gift for the twenty-fifth anniversary is silver. Have you priced out an ounce of silver? Fortunately there are silver-plated and other less expensive versions of true silver. Some gift ideas include personalized photo albums with a silver cover, jewelry, watches, or an embroidered pillow or personalized quilt using various shades of silver-hued fabric.
Be a King & Give Her Some Bling
Still perplexed about what to get your wife? Take a hint from Marilyn Monroe, who in Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, sang, “A kiss on the hand may be quite continental, but diamonds are a girl’s best friend…Men grow cold as girls grow old, and we all lose our charm in the end. But square-cut or pear-shaped, these rocks won’t lose their shape. Diamonds are a girl’s best friend.”
Even if you’ve not yet been married long enough to celebrate a milestone such as a 25th Silver Anniversary, most wives would be hard pressed to turn down an expensive gift like a diamond bracelet, necklace, or other piece of jewelry. In fact, some wives go as far as admitting that staying married has earned them the right to such trinkets!
Take her subtle hints into consideration. Take into account your budget. And when all else fails, take her mom or best friend aside and ask for a suggestion. Regardless of how long you’ve been married or what the traditional gift is for that year, as long as it comes from the heart you really can’t go wrong.
Internet marketer Mark Harris lives in White Rock, British Columbia. He also works as a freelance writer, and in addition to working out of his home, he often takes his laptop to the local coffee shop. When writing a series of articles on the topic of marriage, he looked to sites like www.lovediamonds.net in order to gain insight from various perspectives.